Monday, January 19, 2015

dreaming of spring



     The red bricks that formed the base of her cottage were painted white. An old kind of white paint mixed and rolled on the bricks before paints had so many names and stores competed with the artist’s palette.  Milky white, white before the crystal shines through it; off white, egg shell, satin white, oyster. Every expression of color a competition unless you think the white of fresh mozzarella, taken from the brine and how it tickles your tongue, that was the white bricks for her. She saw them. She felt them.. Any clam shell she had ever seen was white like a clam shell; not like milk. Every broken wave’s white, when the sun was at three or four o’clock and set to focus on the breakers like a spotlight, was that white. No other. Rolling white and roaring white, as the blue green wave rolled through.

     It is not the water that moves but the energy through it.  Every wave is an illusion of movement; as if the water is moving from one area to another. The Indian Ocean eventually coming to the Jersey shore and every wetland on the coast holding something of the Mediterranean and the Aegean within. The Pacific, one Jupiter-sized ocean, carrying every river and Lake Baikal from Russia, even water off the deep sturgeon and all of it rolling into every otter’s paws like a cabbage of energy, that is really, layers and layers of energy and detritus of many oceans and currents, rolling into their paws or filtered through the feathery gills of baby clams.  Every leaf a part of the wrack line and watermark from the Yangtze, the Yellow or the Seine rivers.  Why not bring Paris into it? After all, those kicks of the Follies surely moved the air and birds’ preening feathers loose caught this wind and moved onto the Seine and into the ocean and through the currents, rolling, rolling to the Jersey shore. Why not? Or the Danube, blue dancing on the edges of the red cabbage. Well, where else would that blue come from except the Danube?  Dancing on the red cabbage like the white moths touched by yellow but owned by the air and moving through space, time and energy to your garden.  Wave and crest, colonies of Monarchs, moving through time’s patterns since their own generation did not make the crossing but left it to cascades of sparrows to wing through the air, stir up the cosmos and move the whole pilgrimage along the curve of energy, the ladle of abbondanza, the plenty crowding out of the great Horn and all of it, ending in the colors of the evening, the deeper blues before the dark, the warmer reds, the sweet colors of skin with summer on their nets and the lunar curve of children’s calves and thighs walking through the sand; small sprays of grains whisking past their toes, as one or maybe more look back for the dolphins, always ready to come to the surface when you’re not looking; always there the day before when you should have been.  The summer feeling like always.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

the journey to belong



If you don’t know where you belong but have a sense of belonging, as I do, then is that enough of a place? I’m sometimes lost and looking for a community while all around it seems that there are people I know with families and children and grandchildren or if not that then places they visit with friends and stay a while. Then there’s me. Working. Sometimes saying I’m a working fool. But what I mean depends upon the day and how many stories I hear from all these people that are in different orbits than me. 

I sometimes feel as if I am spinning around my small life and everyone else is having a larger life. Relaxing more, communing more. All the things I long for and don’t seem to have in abundance. I could feel as if I did a bad job of making a life but the truth is different. Well, that’s the thing about truth, it is always different. It’s always different and it is what it is. 

I might feel as if everyone owns gravity and I’m just free floating. I have a friend that sees me this way. I think she does. Here I am free as can be and there she is saddled with her life and not feeling free. Now, I find that funny in a bittersweet kind of way because I see her as having a very full life; filled with people, children, relatives and friends too. Community involvement. Accomplishments in all important areas. She’s a great parent. I see her as belonging. And sometimes I see myself as someone that bounces against the earth’s atmosphere trying to get in. But then again, there are days I feel so much a part of everyone and everything, that my heart is full and joy wells up inside of me. I hardly know what to do with this sense of fullness. 

Why there are days that I feel so empty and alone; so out of it; and questioning why this and why that, I don’t know. How do some of the people I know manage to find so many spaces in their lives for great community activities and belonging? I have always been aware of the word ‘longing’ in belonging. A lot more than I’d wish. But then I have also felt belonging and I can hear in my friends that have all these places to go to and family and community the same things I feel on those days I feel alone. It is a strange thing and a wonder to me. 

Right now everything is good. I went through several layers of regret and envy and come to this moment where I feel perfect. I feel held by the world. I am even smiling at how often I get caught up in feeling that it’s a bit grandiose to say I feel held by the world but if I said I feel as though I belong to the earth that would also sound quite grand. And what I really mean is that I feel so lucky to have this feeling and to be safe here in the screen house hanging with Molly and writing this and knowing that as much as these friends of mine aren’t a deep and integrated part of my life as I used to wish for when I wished for community, they are that too. They are a part of my wider community.  Kurt Vonnegut, Jr. wrote about karass and granfalloon. Sometimes the same people can be both in your karass, your intimate soul community and they might sometimes also fit into your granfalloon or the group that you belong to.

On the days or in the hours I might feel alone I’ll find myself wondering if it’s because of choices I made; choices about how to relate to people and family. Or if I was not given instructions on how to create and hold the structure of family. More often than not I have found myself trying to reenter the earth’s atmosphere after realizing that the search for my karass was really closer to my home than I realized.  Whether it was a happy accident or not, I had a home. A solid community too.  Not as large as many I know but real. The truth, ever true but always evolving, is that deep connections, soul friends or family relationships are always evolving. 

If you were the person in charge of keeping the planets and stars in relationship to each other; dealing with forces like solar winds, gravity, magnetic pulls and stellar winds, can you imagine the magnificent talents it would take to keep everything in orbit and keeping a safe but relational distance? 

What we bring from our adventures with people and places, from the changing landscapes of our relationships and the unfamiliar places in our heart that, when we are brought to them, and remember that we were there once before, is a sense of connection. Some people I’m fortunate enough to know, and they are in my karass, bring me a real and live sense of what it’s like to feel belonging. To have your self and your sense of life deepened and heightened by these encounters is joy. It’s love. It’s a sweetness that touches you in all the spaces that felt empty. Today was quite a journey. It’s quite possible every day is a journey and I’m just not aware of the itinerary. But today was something special for me because I came home in several ways. When the world unfolds itself so that you can see all the layers and be a part of so many different places; and belong to all of them and recognize that they are always there but not all the time, that is treasure. That’s the pirate treasure I wanted as a kid. I still don’t have the map leading me there. But some of the elements that I know how to gather or become a part of help point me in the right direction. At least every now and then. 


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Sunday, March 9, 2014

there you are and there you go



I wanted to let go and just let the wind take me.  In fact, I knew that nothing would change if I didn’t feel released at the core of my being.  If there was something I was holding onto, some belief or outmoded idea, now was the time to release it and to open myself to change like a sail is ready for the wind.  So I invited the universe to destroy me.  Naturally, I sought the advice of a shaman.  I didn’t want to leave too many things to chance.
     I thought this would be a way through the inertia, if that’s what it was, that was stopping me.  Call it whatever you want, know what I mean, but get it out of the way. 
     One of my biggest fears when I left Nic was, “Would I know myself?”  Well, I decided to take care of this fear in ship shape fashion and made a full commitment to leaving the certain shore for the uncertain waters.  How else could I have gone?   It’s not that I was used to such adventures but I couldn’t imagine another way out of the tangled tango I was dancing in.
     There were many thoughts I had about why I might extend this invitation.  For one, I knew that alchemists looked at destruction as a preliminary step to reorganization.  I was willing to try anything that would help me become a stronger person.  Part of the deal was that you were destroyed by what you most feared.  By facing my worst fears I thought I could then certainly live without Nic - and not simply as a person making due but as someone that has overcome.  It’s almost heroic when I think about it.  And another aspect is that since all shamanic work has the important feature of deliberate choice, this journey was like an initiation into my new selfhood.  You’re also given the gift of knowing your end.  I was shredded.   That was only the beginning of the “transition.”  The rest became a series of evolutions and watery meanderings that makes Darwin’s theory of evolution seem like the biological equivalent of lethargy.

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Sunday, December 15, 2013

Everyone is a beginner



            “In the beginning everyone is a beginner.  That’s the first thing.  Some think the conventions of time can save you if you get a handle on the arm of the clock.  You only need that if you’re talking the thin kind of time that rushes past you so quickly that you feel you might go over the rapids.   That thin time really slides but of course it’s no good.  No good at all.  And besides, now people just get swept away.  Now there’s not even the little hand to grab hold of.  Digital  changed all that.  Now they’re just doing some serious numbers crunching.  Try to survive that.” 
            “First we got turned around chasing the spheres in the sky.  Then from the sun and moon going through all their phases like the stilted, speedy rhythm of time lapse photography folks got dizzy. They had to sit down till the swirling settled.  Something had to be done.  Someone called for organization”
            “Too bad everybody forgot about the options we had.  Now so many are just rushing down the road hoping boulders don’t drop a dime on them.  Hoping it ain’t their time yet.   Thin time, what’s known as linear time tends to pull us into pieces.  We become fragmented and even separated from our own experiences.  Our conception of time is now a pale, melted Dali watch.  There are deeper layers of time, richer than this surface tick tock telling of events.  Do not deny the shadows.  The spaces between.”
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Saturday, September 21, 2013

the web, the holograph and the point you're at right now

In some way my neural network has started the work of Spider woman in stretching its web and integrating all aspects of my experiences to build a home.  So no matter where I am on the web, no matter what intersection or triangle the center has been set and strengthened.  But the thing is, I can’t predict where I will be on the web either.  I don’t know if this is good or bad.  But this is the way it is with webs and triangles.  As much as I want to be able to predict the structure of my life  I realize that it can’t be.  I can try to set the conditions but I can’t predict what will become of me in my becoming.  That would be impossible.  I would prefer that but then I suppose it could be tiresome to have everything so ordered and predictable.   Never said I chose the road.  It’s more like the road chose me.  It’s as if it forms me in time with it’s thickening geometry.
I think of my neural network as being like Buckminster Fuller’s geodesic domes.  All points are equally strong and set in their triangular units.  The units that make up the web are a parcel and symbolic language;  a solid syntax of building that belies the delicate appearance of the structure.  If I fall apart, in some way, the structure will be there.  The framework is always more solid than the item, especially if it’s an organic “item.”  Bummer.  But true enough.

I think of Mark Rothko and his rectangles of color.  I thought of the abstract rectangles and his death and couldn’t fathom the depths he must have traveled to bring one color into relationship with the other on the canvas.  Yet his simple canvases speak volumes.  Ceremonial at times, their force pulls me back to something ancient.  They’re like eyes through to another way of knowing.  When I look at them I am drawn into a deeper place within myself and I wonder what went into his hands.

I know that we can’t all survive our trip.  It seems that everything that informs us, changes us.   A condition of change is always an end to something or some state.  It’s not necessarily a definitive end that’s why we can use the word transformation.  There is always the residue of endings residing on the edge of beginnings.  If we dive off into the open seas we will change.  We will be seized by a new element and within this watery world everything is possible.  But we swim through the natal waters of our world and take residence in the element that gave birth to all that resides on land.  And our neural net holds us to what is true within us during this time.

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Saturday, September 14, 2013

Make me a milkshake



from Conversations with Nic

     If you wrestle with time and survive like some have wrestled with sea serpents, maybe you can rise to the surface, eventually, to claim your rights, full selfhood.  Time is, after all, one of the common elements in escaping Nic’s pull.  Sometimes it hits you like a thunderclap or like the boom from the old camera bulbs that exploded when the photographer stomped on a miniature bellows. (Images were captured on plates like time can capture our lives.)  The sound of the boom snaps us into another reality.  We’re transported to another dimension of life, taken to an island through the ethers.  At the very least we know that something has gone through a transformation.  Somehow you’ve gotten through a wall, a diaphragm, or the sticky cocoon has crackled open because the heat of this existence had to emerge.  It always will.  Something drives me through all the twists and turns in the labyrinth like a luge run and brings me up to the street level.
     Something major has shifted.  It’s like that old joke.  You sit down at the luncheonette counter and say, “Make me a milkshake.”   Pretending to wave a magic wand the counter person says, “Boom!  You’re a milkshake.”  So if you’re moving ahead now it’s because some key ingredient has been added and the soda jerk had a sense of humor.


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